Rev. David Womersley
FACING UP TO BEREAVEMENT
No 9 Happy Memories
Memories can be very comforting and are a great help in the healing process. As time goes on, sad unhappy memories fade. It is the happy ones that come to the fore and I have plenty of those
There is nothing more fulfilling than knowing that together you have spent most of your lives in the will of God. God’s call came to us both separately but we believe the Lord brought us together. That does not mean that it was always easy. There were times in Africa of frustration, fear, opposition and illness but oh, so many times of fulfilment and satisfaction. A big advantage of being in God’s work for a long time is seeing fruit that has remained. It has been a thrill to come across those trained by us who today are in leadership and doing so well in the Lord’s service, many with thriving churches. I saw a lot of this on a visit last year.
Then there are the leisure times. We spent enjoyable holidays camped by a Congo stream, in the Lake District, bed and breakfasting in Cornwall, Wales, Norfolk and the Yorkshire Dales. Bronwen loved looking for and photographing wild flowers and butterflies. Consequently our house is full of her paintings, most of exquisite Congo flowers. Memories indeed.
On our 40th Wedding Anniversary, we decided to splash out and booked a bus trip to beautiful Lake Garda. We spent five weeks in Australia, partly for ministry and partly visiting my sister and her family. Once we were invited by friends to Slovenia – what a joy! Many of these events have been recorded in colourful albums of photos, menus, sketches etc. Her artistic flare make these striking permanent memories.
It is now just two years since Bronwen died. As I placed some roses (from her bushes) on the grave, I suddenly began to cry. I was surprised! Surely after two years that wouldn’t happen! But I let them flow and in a strange way it did me good. If you have been recently bereaved, don’t try and stem emotions. After all, Jesus wept.
I remembered the happy fulfilled life and thanked God for our almost 48 years together.
The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases His mercies never come to an end:
They are new every morning… Great is The faithfulness, O Lord….
That is what my son and I have put on the tombstone: “Great is Thy faithfulness”. Isaiah 63:7 says: “I will mention the lovingkindnesses of the LORD and the praises of the LORD”.
In my bereavement, I have found such a lot of comfort in remembering the good times, in seeing God’s hand on our lives. I have been helped by a number of close friends and a loving son. In this my last article of this series, may I suggest you too look back on your lives together and thank the Lord. You will find much comfort in that. I hope I have helped you face up to the inevitable and be better prepared for it.